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Some I have no contact with and will probably never see or hear from ever again, and that's fine. Honestly, it's probably better that way. Some I have passing connections with, depending on our closeness and the level and length of the relationship. There are others whom, unfortunately, I will probably never speak to again and that makes me sad. But I know if they were ever to come back into my life again, we would never be able to be "just friends.
I hold all my past relationships in a special place within my heart. I'm thankful for all the experiences and love that I had with them, and I'm grateful to have the ability to not regret any past loves. I don't have to deny to my husband that I loved other people before him and that there is some part of those ex-loves that lives on in me.
After all, I wouldn't be the woman I am today without having gone through all the relationship experiences I've weathered throughout my years, and the same goes for my husband and his past loves. Sheila Hageman is a writer, writing teacher, author, and body image expert. Dating is a challenge for everyone. Regardless of age or circumstance, we all struggle to find our perfect match. It can be done, but it is so very hard. I felt after the break up he wanted me at arms length but tried the friendship deal anyway.
If there is any sexual attraction between the both of you, stick with 3 for the duration! Perhaps most importantly, Brenner says two people who want to be friends "need to look very closely at their own desires and motivations to see if trying for friendship is even possible. Additionally, Brenner explains that if you and your ex-lover attempt to smooth things over too quickly, and claim that you want to be friends right away, the chances of it working out are probably lower.
But if you and your lover had a pretty casual relationship where you were able to talk, joke around, and hang out in addition to hooking up, a friendship might a little easier to transition to.
That said, if you think that you and your former hookup buddy would be great friends, don't feel like you need to rush it.
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